To say that my life is simple would be totally absurd… so I’m not even going to try. Lets be real for a moment. I come from a broken family and explaining why my ex-half-sister-in-law on my Dad’s side attends my Mother’s holiday gatherings is complicated enough. I’m not going to sugar coat the complexity of my life because it has given me identity. You see… my past is far from perfect, but those imperfections of my past blessed me with knowledge, understanding, and wisdom for many important decisions in years following. My life hasn’t been as tragic as some, but it has been… hard.
I’ll take hardship over contentment most days. Please pleeeaaaase do not get that confused with theatricals. I loathe unnecessary drama even though it is apparently apart of life no matter how much we run from it. The ironic thing about going through a hardship is that it forces you to encounter good at some point. For example, if you lose your job… you’ll have to find another one. That process of finding another job is difficult, but it humbles you. It makes you a better person… a person who realizes that working for “the man” is better than not working at all. Having an income to provide for your family out-weighs the monstrosity of office politics. Your perspective turns from frustration to gratefulness. I would rather be grateful than frustrated.
Perspective is everything.
There is no need for me to give you a laundry list of my life’s hardships. I’m sure you have your own list of difficult times and “trials,” as my Mother has always called them. Hardships can be painful to reflect on, but I want to challenge you to do it. Reflect on your hardships, whatever they may be, and find something GOOD that came from them. Be careful not to get caught in anger, resentment, or bitterness. Those hidden evils can destroy your relationships and frankly ruin the rest of your life. Now… take that good that you found from the hardship and ask yourself, “would I have found ___ had I not gone through ____.” Most likely that answer would be no.
Life is short.
Many mornings I wake up and think how quick time goes by in life. I especially think that on Monday mornings. It feels like just yesterday that I was a newlywed, or in college, or living with my parents. In what seems like a blink of an eye, I’ve lived 20-years. The realization of how quick time goes by scares the beejeebees out of me! I’m a serious planner who likes to PLAN it allllll out. When you tell me time is ticking, I want to know what is scheduled for this particular minute that we are in at the exact moment. That is no joke. Then the questions start… Will I ever make more money? Will I ever get to that high-level position in a company? Will I EVER have kids? Will I ever travel the world? Will I….Will I??????????? Oh, I can totally wear myself out with questions. Have you ever done that? Yeah… yeah. I’m the only one.
So, life is short and perspective is everything. Shouldn’t we try to live life in a good perspective? Check out my blog on setting your perspective right each day.